Posts Tagged "self-esteem"

The #1 Thing Keeping You From Healthy Relationships and 3 Ways to Fix It

Posted by on Feb 12, 2013 in Blog | 0 comments

The #1 Thing Keeping You From Healthy Relationships and 3 Ways to Fix It

Women come to me with an array of heartbreaking journeys on their quest for the right person, belonging, and love. They all have unique stories and histories that bring them to my doorstep but there is one thing they typically have in common. Research shows that the one thing that stands in the way of people achieving loving healthy relationships is that they all avoid….   VULNERABILITY   Ick. Who wants to feel vulnerable?! Well that is the problem. In our effort to avoid feeling vulnerable we numb ourselves to other feelings. According to Brene Brown, a researcher who...

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The Dangers of Comparing Yourself to Others

Posted by on May 15, 2012 in Blog | 0 comments

The Dangers of Comparing Yourself to Others

Comparing ourselves to others is a behavior that could be helpful in some situations, like when we are competing in sports and need a marker in which we can measure the improvement we need to make. Or if we are learning a skill ,like knitting, and need to compare our skill to another persons to make sure we are doing it right. When we are children we observe the world around us to determine how to act towards others, how to share, or how to speak. We were sponges taking in the world around us so that we can learn how to be in that world. When does comparing yourself become dangerous? When...

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The Power and Control Relationship Issue and How Counseling Can Help

Posted by on May 2, 2012 in Blog | 0 comments

The Power and Control Relationship Issue and How Counseling Can Help

Many people don’t realize what control looks like, or even if it is occurring in their relationship. Some behaviors might become normal and you might not even realize that the way your partner reacts is considered controlling. Below you will find a helpful diagram that a colleague recently shared with me. This is often used as a tool to help people realize that they are in a relationship where control and manipulation play a roll. As you can see from the picture excessive control and manipulation is considered abuse. However it doesn’t have to be physical or sexual to be abusive....

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3 Strategies to Let Go of Control

Posted by on Oct 31, 2011 in Blog | 0 comments

3 Strategies to Let Go of Control

Letting go is kind of like floating on a river. Life is the river, it has direction, current, and flow. Sometimes its bumpy and sometimes it is smooth. Imagine you are a leaf and the river is pulling you along with it. You can either hold on to every rock or branch that you pass trying to hang on and control how fast you float down the river or you can let go and let it take you where it will anyway. As a continuation of the previous blog, “Learn how to control the one person you can, you”, I have identified 3┬ástrategies┬áto shift your focus or control from others onto you; ways...

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