Posts Tagged "relationships"

Are you an Adult Child of an Alcoholic or Dysfunctional Family?

Posted by on Apr 23, 2012 in Blog | 0 comments

Are you an Adult Child of an Alcoholic or Dysfunctional Family?

Believe it or not but a large group of people fit into the “Adult Child” group. If you grew  up in what you would consider a dysfunctional family, for many different reasons, this could be an added element to your identity. There are specific groups for specific types of dysfunction. For example, people who grew up in a family where there was a substance abuser you might fit into the Adult Children of Alcoholics group (ACoA or ACA). For those who grew up in a family where a member suffered from a chronic illness or mental illness, you might feel more at home with those in the...

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Are You In A Controlling Relationship?

Posted by on Jan 11, 2012 in Blog | 0 comments

Are You In A Controlling Relationship?

You might have a picture of what a controlling relationship looks like. However there are many hidden, and often missed signs of control that can cause you to feel like a prisoner to your own actions. Controlling relationships don’t  have to include someone determining what you wear, eat, weigh, or who you can spend time with, there are other signs. It doesn’t have to include checking Internet or phone call histories, stopping by where your partner said they were just to make sure, or enforcing a curfew for your adult partner. Before we get into different signs of control it is...

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Boundaries – What are they and why do you need them?

Posted by on Nov 17, 2011 in Blog | 0 comments

Boundaries – What are they and why do you need them?

Sometimes people find themselves bending over backwards for others and then experience resentment towards that person. The truth is when we choose to step over our own boundaries, it is nobody’s fault but our own. Having healthy boundaries can help you maintain your inner peace when the outside may be full of turmoil and uncertainty. Boundaries will help you express what you will accept from others, in terms of behavior. For example if someone calls you a name and you do not draw the line that calling you a name is unacceptable then you have put that “in bounds”, or ok for...

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Accepting Control Over the One Person You Can…You!

Posted by on Oct 24, 2011 in Blog | 0 comments

Accepting Control Over the One Person You Can…You!

Some of the best words I ever learned were: You can’t change others, only yourself. Another way I have heard this is: You can’t change others, just your reaction to them. There are two ways to control. One in which you try to control everything around the people in your life in hopes for making them think, feel, or act differently.  The other way is to try to actually get the other person to change the person they are so they can be who you want them to be. How many times have you tried, with no avail, to get someone to notice you, to make it easy for them to like you, spend time...

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