Posts Tagged "letting go"

The #1 Thing Keeping You From Healthy Relationships and 3 Ways to Fix It

Posted by on Feb 12, 2013 in Blog | 0 comments

The #1 Thing Keeping You From Healthy Relationships and 3 Ways to Fix It

Women come to me with an array of heartbreaking journeys on their quest for the right person, belonging, and love. They all have unique stories and histories that bring them to my doorstep but there is one thing they typically have in common. Research shows that the one thing that stands in the way of people achieving loving healthy relationships is that they all avoid….   VULNERABILITY   Ick. Who wants to feel vulnerable?! Well that is the problem. In our effort to avoid feeling vulnerable we numb ourselves to other feelings. According to Brene Brown, a researcher who...

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Can I Make a Counseling Appointment for Someone Else?

Posted by on Feb 5, 2013 in Blog | 0 comments

Can I Make a Counseling Appointment for Someone Else?

Short answer: No. Long answer: There are lots of reasons why you shouldn’t make a counseling appointment for someone else, unless of course you are the legal guardian of that person and that person is under 18 years old and here is why: Counseling success depends on the client’s willingness to be there and participate. Signing someone up for counseling shows that they are not ready yet and IF they show up for the appointment, they will most likely be guarded, resentful towards you for making them go, and unwilling to explore the issues that caused you to sign them up. If you feel...

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Salt Water: The Cure for Your Problems?

Posted by on Jan 31, 2013 in Blog | 0 comments

Salt Water: The Cure for Your Problems?

I came across this quote a while back and it was one that actually made me think. Could it be true? While many people come in to see me so I can fix their situation, help them feel better, and wave a magic wand so their life improves, I just don’t have all the answers. Here is why salt water might just be the cure you are looking for and help guide your therapy experience:   Sweat: Whether literal of figurative working hard is required to get to where you want to be, at least in counseling. It won’t be easy but you can do it and it will be well worth it, I promise....

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Are You In A Controlling Relationship?

Posted by on Jan 11, 2012 in Blog | 0 comments

Are You In A Controlling Relationship?

You might have a picture of what a controlling relationship looks like. However there are many hidden, and often missed signs of control that can cause you to feel like a prisoner to your own actions. Controlling relationships don’t  have to include someone determining what you wear, eat, weigh, or who you can spend time with, there are other signs. It doesn’t have to include checking Internet or phone call histories, stopping by where your partner said they were just to make sure, or enforcing a curfew for your adult partner. Before we get into different signs of control it is...

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3 Strategies to Let Go of Control

Posted by on Oct 31, 2011 in Blog | 0 comments

3 Strategies to Let Go of Control

Letting go is kind of like floating on a river. Life is the river, it has direction, current, and flow. Sometimes its bumpy and sometimes it is smooth. Imagine you are a leaf and the river is pulling you along with it. You can either hold on to every rock or branch that you pass trying to hang on and control how fast you float down the river or you can let go and let it take you where it will anyway. As a continuation of the previous blog, “Learn how to control the one person you can, you”, I have identified 3 strategies to shift your focus or control from others onto you; ways...

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