Posts Tagged "control"

The #1 Thing Keeping You From Healthy Relationships and 3 Ways to Fix It

Posted by on Feb 12, 2013 in Blog | 0 comments

The #1 Thing Keeping You From Healthy Relationships and 3 Ways to Fix It

Women come to me with an array of heartbreaking journeys on their quest for the right person, belonging, and love. They all have unique stories and histories that bring them to my doorstep but there is one thing they typically have in common. Research shows that the one thing that stands in the way of people achieving loving healthy relationships is that they all avoid….   VULNERABILITY   Ick. Who wants to feel vulnerable?! Well that is the problem. In our effort to avoid feeling vulnerable we numb ourselves to other feelings. According to Brene Brown, a researcher who...

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The Power and Control Relationship Issue and How Counseling Can Help

Posted by on May 2, 2012 in Blog | 0 comments

The Power and Control Relationship Issue and How Counseling Can Help

Many people don’t realize what control looks like, or even if it is occurring in their relationship. Some behaviors might become normal and you might not even realize that the way your partner reacts is considered controlling. Below you will find a helpful diagram that a colleague recently shared with me. This is often used as a tool to help people realize that they are in a relationship where control and manipulation play a roll. As you can see from the picture excessive control and manipulation is considered abuse. However it doesn’t have to be physical or sexual to be abusive....

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Are you an Adult Child of an Alcoholic or Dysfunctional Family?

Posted by on Apr 23, 2012 in Blog | 0 comments

Are you an Adult Child of an Alcoholic or Dysfunctional Family?

Believe it or not but a large group of people fit into the “Adult Child” group. If you grew  up in what you would consider a dysfunctional family, for many different reasons, this could be an added element to your identity. There are specific groups for specific types of dysfunction. For example, people who grew up in a family where there was a substance abuser you might fit into the Adult Children of Alcoholics group (ACoA or ACA). For those who grew up in a family where a member suffered from a chronic illness or mental illness, you might feel more at home with those in the...

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Are You In A Controlling Relationship?

Posted by on Jan 11, 2012 in Blog | 0 comments

Are You In A Controlling Relationship?

You might have a picture of what a controlling relationship looks like. However there are many hidden, and often missed signs of control that can cause you to feel like a prisoner to your own actions. Controlling relationships don’t  have to include someone determining what you wear, eat, weigh, or who you can spend time with, there are other signs. It doesn’t have to include checking Internet or phone call histories, stopping by where your partner said they were just to make sure, or enforcing a curfew for your adult partner. Before we get into different signs of control it is...

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Boundaries – What are they and why do you need them?

Posted by on Nov 17, 2011 in Blog | 0 comments

Boundaries – What are they and why do you need them?

Sometimes people find themselves bending over backwards for others and then experience resentment towards that person. The truth is when we choose to step over our own boundaries, it is nobody’s fault but our own. Having healthy boundaries can help you maintain your inner peace when the outside may be full of turmoil and uncertainty. Boundaries will help you express what you will accept from others, in terms of behavior. For example if someone calls you a name and you do not draw the line that calling you a name is unacceptable then you have put that “in bounds”, or ok for...

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