Posts Tagged "Communication Barriers"

3 Ways You Sabotage Relationships

Posted by on Jan 30, 2013 in Blog | 0 comments

3 Ways You Sabotage Relationships

Many people experience relationship problems resulting from destructive habits that sabotage their efforts. Most likely, it might not even be the first time you are unknowingly sabotaging your efforts at achieving a healthy relationship. Falling back into a destructive relationship pattern is easy, breaking them is another story. I am a firm believer that when you have insight into your patterns and start to honestly explore what your needs are, you are at better odds of letting go of sabotaging habits so you can achieve healthy relationships. Here are 3 behaviors that often contribute to...

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The Power and Control Relationship Issue and How Counseling Can Help

Posted by on May 2, 2012 in Blog | 0 comments

The Power and Control Relationship Issue and How Counseling Can Help

Many people don’t realize what control looks like, or even if it is occurring in their relationship. Some behaviors might become normal and you might not even realize that the way your partner reacts is considered controlling. Below you will find a helpful diagram that a colleague recently shared with me. This is often used as a tool to help people realize that they are in a relationship where control and manipulation play a roll. As you can see from the picture excessive control and manipulation is considered abuse. However it doesn’t have to be physical or sexual to be abusive....

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Are you an Adult Child of an Alcoholic or Dysfunctional Family?

Posted by on Apr 23, 2012 in Blog | 0 comments

Are you an Adult Child of an Alcoholic or Dysfunctional Family?

Believe it or not but a large group of people fit into the “Adult Child” group. If you grew  up in what you would consider a dysfunctional family, for many different reasons, this could be an added element to your identity. There are specific groups for specific types of dysfunction. For example, people who grew up in a family where there was a substance abuser you might fit into the Adult Children of Alcoholics group (ACoA or ACA). For those who grew up in a family where a member suffered from a chronic illness or mental illness, you might feel more at home with those in the...

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How Counseling and Play Can Help Break Patterns

Posted by on Jan 21, 2012 in Blog | 0 comments

How Counseling and Play Can Help Break Patterns

Forget what you know about Play Therapy, if you know anything at all about it. In fact, forget what you know about play, specifically that it is only for kids. Sandtray is a type of play therapy but my favorite people to use it with is adults! Sandtray is a tool that can be used as an alternative to verbal communication. It is something that can be used with all ages but with adults it is particularly useful because adults can process the tray and see what are possible barriers they are not facing, over-arching themes that might be holding them back, or future oriented goals that they can...

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What Does It Mean to Be Reactive? Can Counseling Help?

Posted by on Dec 28, 2011 in Blog | 0 comments

What Does It Mean to Be Reactive? Can Counseling Help?

No one likes to be told they are reactive. But hearing it for the first time is especially difficult and confusing. What does it mean to be reactive? Being reactive is what it sounds like, reacting. What your friends or partner may be telling you or what you suspect on your own is that you may have the tendency to react to someone’s words or actions quickly, without thought, in a defensive manner. For example, something you might have said when someone told you that they think you are reactive is ” I am not reactive!” or “You’re the one that’s...

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