Posts Tagged "boundaries"

Can I Make a Counseling Appointment for Someone Else?

Posted by on Feb 5, 2013 in Blog | 0 comments

Can I Make a Counseling Appointment for Someone Else?

Short answer: No. Long answer: There are lots of reasons why you shouldn’t make a counseling appointment for someone else, unless of course you are the legal guardian of that person and that person is under 18 years old and here is why: Counseling success depends on the client’s willingness to be there and participate. Signing someone up for counseling shows that they are not ready yet and IF they show up for the appointment, they will most likely be guarded, resentful towards you for making them go, and unwilling to explore the issues that caused you to sign them up. If you feel...

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3 Ways You Sabotage Relationships

Posted by on Jan 30, 2013 in Blog | 0 comments

3 Ways You Sabotage Relationships

Many people experience relationship problems resulting from destructive habits that sabotage their efforts. Most likely, it might not even be the first time you are unknowingly sabotaging your efforts at achieving a healthy relationship. Falling back into a destructive relationship pattern is easy, breaking them is another story. I am a firm believer that when you have insight into your patterns and start to honestly explore what your needs are, you are at better odds of letting go of sabotaging habits so you can achieve healthy relationships. Here are 3 behaviors that often contribute to...

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The Power and Control Relationship Issue and How Counseling Can Help

Posted by on May 2, 2012 in Blog | 0 comments

The Power and Control Relationship Issue and How Counseling Can Help

Many people don’t realize what control looks like, or even if it is occurring in their relationship. Some behaviors might become normal and you might not even realize that the way your partner reacts is considered controlling. Below you will find a helpful diagram that a colleague recently shared with me. This is often used as a tool to help people realize that they are in a relationship where control and manipulation play a roll. As you can see from the picture excessive control and manipulation is considered abuse. However it doesn’t have to be physical or sexual to be abusive....

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Are you an Adult Child of an Alcoholic or Dysfunctional Family?

Posted by on Apr 23, 2012 in Blog | 0 comments

Are you an Adult Child of an Alcoholic or Dysfunctional Family?

Believe it or not but a large group of people fit into the “Adult Child” group. If you grew  up in what you would consider a dysfunctional family, for many different reasons, this could be an added element to your identity. There are specific groups for specific types of dysfunction. For example, people who grew up in a family where there was a substance abuser you might fit into the Adult Children of Alcoholics group (ACoA or ACA). For those who grew up in a family where a member suffered from a chronic illness or mental illness, you might feel more at home with those in the...

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Are You In A Controlling Relationship?

Posted by on Jan 11, 2012 in Blog | 0 comments

Are You In A Controlling Relationship?

You might have a picture of what a controlling relationship looks like. However there are many hidden, and often missed signs of control that can cause you to feel like a prisoner to your own actions. Controlling relationships don’t  have to include someone determining what you wear, eat, weigh, or who you can spend time with, there are other signs. It doesn’t have to include checking Internet or phone call histories, stopping by where your partner said they were just to make sure, or enforcing a curfew for your adult partner. Before we get into different signs of control it is...

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